We are told to forgive. We are also told in the Lord’s prayer that God will forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors. It’s not optional in the life of Abba’s children.
“But”, you say, “you don’t know what he said to me. You don’t know what she did to me.”
That’s right. I don’t know. No one else can truly know the wounds and hurt that you carry except for you and God. But God has set forgiving as the standard.
Is it easy? No. Is it possible? Yes, but only with God’s help and in God’s strength. Is there any other way? No.
Remember that Jesus forgave His murderers while they were in the very act of killing Him. That’s the ultimate impossible standard that only becomes possible when Jesus is living inside of you and me. Then we can forgive the unforgivable in others because we know we have been forgiven the unforgivable in ourselves by none other than God Himself.
It takes pride to hold a grudge. Anyone can do that. It takes humility to forgive. Not everyone will do that, but those who do choose the better way. They choose God’s way. Plus, in humility is liberty.