“When you are thinking of the grudge you owe someone, let the Spirit of God bring back to your mind how you have treated God” (Oswald Chambers, in Run Today’s Race from The Complete Works of Oswald Chambers).
I’m still stunned at the loss of Eddie Van Halen. It still doesn’t seem real. I still think that at some point someone will uncover the hoax and Eddie will be alive and well and working on the next Van Halen album.
One beautiful discovery for me was learning that toward the end of his life, Eddie and Sammy Hagar mended fences. They had been on bad terms for years– decades even– but had finally reconciled as friends again.
There’s nothing more beautiful than reconciliation. Nothing else points toward the selfless and unconditional love of God quite like it. It’s the rare happily ever after ending.
Who do you need to reconcile with? Is it a father or mother, brother or sister, son or daughter? Is it a friend or a spouse– even an ex-spouse?
The question isn’t whether or not they deserve forgiveness, but whether you deserve peace. You will never move forward toward wholeness without reconciliation. You will hinder the flow of God’s blessing in your life by denying forgiveness.
Most of all, one day you will wish you could go back and reconcile. As painful as it is to put aside your pride to forgive the one who hurt you, it’s more painful to live with the regret of not being reconciled before it was too late. Once it’s over, you can never go back.
Jesus said that your forgiveness from God depends on how you forgive others.
“For if you forgive people their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins, leaving them, letting them go, and giving up resentment], your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins, leaving them, letting them go, and giving up resentment], neither will your Father forgive you your trespasses” (Matthew 6:14-15, AMP).
As much as it is in your power, seek to forgive and be reconciled.