I read a great book recently. I’m not saying that because my pastor wrote the book. I’m saying it because it’s about the most honest book I’ve ever read on dealing with a loved one with dementia. Honestly, it’s a book I wish I could have read a long time ago before witnessing both my grandmothers going through their own battles with memory loss diseases.
My takeaways are 1) that sometimes there are no right or wrong choices in dealing with this disease– there’s only you doing the best you can with the resources and the knowledge you’ve been given. 2) Sometimes caring for a loved one with dementia is a thankless job dealing with someone who will not only be uncooperative but often be combative and hostile. Remember that true love is always unconditional. Also remember that when you were little, your parents made choices for you that you didn’t always like but were for your good.
It seems to me that with diseases like Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia, it’s not the patient who really suffers as much as it is their loved ones who have to witness them dying a little bit every day, losing their memories and a part of their identity.
Here’s the link to buy the book if you’re interested:
Most of all, spend time with those you love, even if they’re no longer able to appreciate it or to respond. There’s always the small chance you’ll see glimpses of who they used to be. But most of all, you only get so many moments to share before they’re gone and you can’t get them back.
After all, any act done in true love is never wasted or in vain.