I’m sure you’ve heard the word character defined as “what you do in the dark” or “how you behave when you think no one is watching.”
I agree with that. But my question in response is: so what does that look like in real life?
I think it means keeping your word. Regardless.
It means following through on a commitment, even if it becomes inconvenient.
It means when I say, “I’ll pray for you,” actually praying. I can say that I’m about 50/50 on that. Sometimes, I pray and sometimes I intend to but life and forgetfulness get in the way. I need to work on that.
It means when you say you’re a friend, actually being a friend and not just being friendly. To me, being friendly means “whenever I gave spare time or whenever I feel like it.” Being a friend means sacrificing by taking time out do other important things to make time for a person.
Character means when I say I’ll be somewhere, actually showing up.
Character means more than good intentions and good feelings. It means I am the same person to all people in all situations. Not like the old joke, “I’m frank and earnest with all my women. In Memphis, I’m Frank and in Nashville, I’m Earnest.”
When life squeezes me, what comes out? Is it anger? Is it annoyance? Is it impatience?
The reality is that what I’m filled with is what comes out. If I spend time with Jesus and get filled up with Him, He’s what comes out.
People are watching me whether I know it or not. People will decide whether or not Jesus is worth following by examining how much I talk about Him and how much I look and act like Him.
And sometimes, it’s fun to be a character. But that’s another topic for another day.