One Full Heart

I’m very satisfied. My heart is completely full after another Christmas draws to a close.

When I was a kid, it was all about getting everything I asked for from the Big Fat Jolly Dude known as Santa. Usually, I got most of the toys and gadgets on my list, but I still always ended up feeling vaguely unsatisfied, like something was still missing.

The older I get, the more I realize that the best part about Christmas with family and friends are the memories you take with you. Long after the toys and devices break, get thrown away, get donated to Goodwill, or end up forgotten in an attic somewhere, those images from the past linger on.

Even now, if I try hard enough, I can conjure up pictures of grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, some of whom are not physically present anymore. I can remember their smiles and laughter and especially their love for me and my love for them.

There’s a line from It’s a Wonderful Life that says, “You can only take with you what you’ve given away.”

There are no U-Hauls behind hearses. You don’t get to take all your toys with you when you die. What you take is the love that you shared and the people that will be in heaven because you shared the love of Jesus with them.

So I’m going to bed feeling all warm and fuzzy and contented.

Merry Christmas to all, indeed, and to all a good night.

Christmas All Year Long

” . . . and it was always said of [Scrooge], that he knew how to keep Christmas well, if any man alive possessed the knowledge. May that be truly said of us, and all of us! And so, as Tiny Tim observed, God bless Us, Every One!” (Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol).

I’m always a little sad to see Christmas Day end. Honestly, I always feel a little let-down. Not because of any gift I didn’t receive or of anything lacking in the day, but because it seems like the end to the magical season that starts in November with Thanksgiving and carries through December.

I think the fictional character of Ebenezer Scrooge got it right. It may have taken nearly a lifetime, but he finally got it right. You can keep the spirit of Christmas alive beyond December 25 and throughout the year. You can honor the child born in the manger not only one day of the year but all the days of all the years.

There’ something about seeing colored lights and tinsel and decorations that brings out the childlike wonder in me. This time of year makes those who have departed from this world seem nearer than ever. I’m coming to love the season of Advent more and more as I get older.

But the magic of the season doesn’t have to end with December. I can still strive in small ways to bring peace on earth, good will to men. I can do my part to live in gratitude for that Jesus who grew out of that manger and into the Savior of the world.

I can even play Christmas music and watch those holiday movies when the urge hits me, even in the middle of hot July.

As I get older, gifts matter less. Seeing and adoring the Christ child matters more. May I never lose that wonder.

The Word Made Flesh

Tomorrow is Christmas Eve. The day after is Christmas. I felt I needed to remind myself what the true meaning of Advent and Christmas really is. Few said it better than Saint Augustine. These words really capture the impossible becoming reality that is at the heart of Christmas.

“When the Maker of time, the Word of the Father, was made Flesh, He gave us His birthday in time, and He, without Whose divine bidding no day runs its course, in His incarnation reserved one day for Himself. He Himself with the Father precedes all spans of time, but on this day, issuing from His mother, He stepped into the tide of years. Man’s Maker was made Man that He, the Ruler of the stars, might nurse at His mother’s breast, that the Bread might be hungry, that the Fountain thirst, the Light sleep, the Way be tired from the journey, that Truth be accused by false witnesses, that the Judge of the living and dead be judged by a mortal judge, that the Teacher be beaten with whips, the Vine crowned with thorns, the Foundation be suspended on wood, that Strength might be made weak, that the Healer be wounded, that Life might die” (St. Augustine).

“He so loved us that, for our sake,
He was made man in time,
although through him all times were made.
He was made man, who made man.
He was created of a mother whom he created.
He was carried by hands that he formed.
He cried in the manger in wordless infancy, he the Word,
without whom all human eloquence is mute” (St. Augustine).


Pretty Paper

For some odd reason, I had a flashback and remembered the old wrapping paper we used to have back in the day. It was sort of a metallic green and came from the Goldsmith’s Department Store in Memphis (now Macy’s). I think my grandfather was the one who brought it home.

I remember it was an industrial sized roll, and I got used to seeing most of my presents in that green paper wrapping. It wasn’t overly festive or even technically Christmas-y. It was just plain green wrapping paper. FYI, if you watch the scene in A Christmas Story where Ralphie and his brother are opening all their gifts on Christmas Day, you’ll catch a glimpse of some green wrapping paper very similar to the one I knew so well.

Honestly, I can’t tell you much of what came wrapped in that metallic green. I’d be lucky if I could recall maybe 1% of all the presents I received from all the Christmases in my childhood.

What I do remember are the people who gave me those gifts. Even back then, I knew that a lot of thought and love went into those presents. I wish I knew then as I know now that the greatest gifts were those people.

If memory serves, I think we finally used the last of that wrapping paper last Christmas. It was truly the end of an era. Now all that’s left are the memories I keep. But maybe those are better than any old wrapping paper anyway.

Happy Winter Solstice!

Yes, December 21 is Winter Solstice, the shortest day of the year. After today, the days start getting longer again.

Some of you are completely done with all your present buying and wrapping. You are the 1%. Lucky you.

Some of you (including me) have some or most of the Christmas shopping done, so there’s a little bit of breathing room and not as much stress.

Some of you haven’t quite started yet. You’re either the ones sweating bullets or thriving on waiting until the absolute last minute.

Maybe in the few days left till Christmas, you can choose not to obsess over what gifts you will give. Maybe spend more time relishing in that one Gift that you have already received, and will receive again. Jesus is coming!

That one Gift is all that really matters. Christmas isn’t about what’s under the tree but what’s in the manger. It’s not wrapped in pretty paper but in swaddling cloths.

Christmas is still about Emmanuel, God with us.

4 Days Till Christmas

It’s 4 days and 29 minutes until Christmas.

The good news: I’m nearly done with all my Christmas present buying with 4 whole days to spare. Only the dreaded wrapping is left.

The bad news: I am just not emotionally and mentally prepared for the fact that Christmas Day is 4 days away. I seriously need for time to slow down so I can process it all.

I’m learning that if I make Christmas all about one day in the calendar year, then I usually end up feeling let down the day after. But if I remember that Christmas is more a state of mind than a 24-hour period, then I do better.

I love the words of a redeemed Scrooge at the end of A Christmas Carol:“I will honour Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year. I will live in the Past, the Present, and the Future. The Spirits of all Three shall strive within me. I will not shut out the lessons that they teach!”

If Christmas is eating a lot and unwrapping presents and hanging out with family, then sure, there’s bound to be a letdown at some point, but if Christmas is about God breaking through into history in the form of an infant born in Bethlehem so long ago who grew into the Savior of the world, then Christmas can happen every day of the year and not just one.

I think I choose the latter.

Oh, and it’s now 4 days and 21 minutes to Christmas.

The Grace of Christmas

I posted these words 4 years ago on Facebook. I re-read them just now and thought you should read them, too.

“The following excerpt originally appeared in Whistling in the Dark, and later in Beyond Words.

‘The lovely old carols played and replayed till their effect is like a dentist’s drill or a jack hammer, the bathetic banalities of the pulpit and the chilling commercialism of almost everything else, people spending money they can’t afford on presents you neither need nor want, “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer,” the plastic tree, the cornball creche, the Hallmark Virgin. Yet for all our efforts, we’ve never quite managed to ruin it. That in itself is part of the miracle, a part you can see. Most of the miracle you can’t see, or don’t.

The young clergyman and his wife do all the things you do on Christmas Eve. They string the lights and hang the ornaments. They supervise the hanging of the stockings. They tuck in the children. They lug the presents down out of hiding and pile them under the tree. Just as they’re about to fall exhausted into bed, the husband remembers his neighbor’s sheep. The man asked him to feed them for him while he was away, and in the press of other matters that night he forgot all about them. So down the hill he goes through knee-deep snow. He gets two bales of hay from the barn and carries them out to the shed. There’s a forty-watt bulb hanging by its cord from the low roof, and he lights it. The sheep huddle in a corner watching as he snaps the baling twine, shakes the squares of hay apart and starts scattering it. Then they come bumbling and shoving to get at it with their foolish, mild faces, the puffs of their breath showing in the air. He is reaching to turn off the bulb and leave when suddenly he realizes where he is. The winter darkness. The glimmer of light. The smell of the hay and the sound of the animals eating. Where he is, of course, is the manger.

He only just saw it. He whose business it is above everything else to have an eye for such things is all but blind in that eye. He who on his best days believes that everything that is most precious anywhere comes from that manger might easily have gone home to bed never knowing that he had himself just been in the manger. The world is the manger. It is only by grace that he happens to see this other part of the miracle.

Christmas itself is by grace. It could never have survived our own blindness and depredations otherwise. It could never have happened otherwise. Perhaps it is the very wildness and strangeness of the grace that has led us to try to tame it. We have tried to make it habitable. We have roofed it in and furnished it. We have reduced it to an occasion we feel at home with, at best a touching and beautiful occasion, at worst a trite and cloying one. But if the Christmas event in itself is indeed-as a matter of cold, hard fact all it’s cracked up to be, then even at best our efforts are misleading.

The Word become flesh. Ultimate Mystery born with a skull you could crush one-handed. Incarnation. It is not tame. It is not touching. It is not beautiful. It is uninhabitable terror. It is unthinkable darkness riven with unbearable light. Agonized laboring led to it, vast upheavals of intergalactic space, time split apart, a wrenching and tearing of the very sinews of reality itself. You can only cover your eyes and shudder before it, before this: “God of God, Light of Light, very God of very God . . . who for us and for our salvation,” as the Nicene Creed puts it, ‘came down from heaven.’

Came down. Only then do we dare uncover our eyes and see what we can see. It is the Resurrection and the Life she holds in her arms. It is the bitterness of death he takes at her breast'” (Frederick Beuchner).

10th Century Advent Wisdom

This is some Advent wisdom written about 1000 or so years ago, proving that wisdom and truth are always timeless and relevant. I’m sure it’s a translation since English as we know it didn’t exist back then (all actual English teachers can feel free to correct me if I’m wrong).

This is a beautiful prayer for this and every Advent season.

“You are our eternal salvation,
The unfailing light of the world.
Light everlasting,
You are truly our redemption.
Grieving that the human race was perishing
through the tempter’s power,
without leaving the heights
You came to the depths in your loving kindness.
Readily taking our humanity by Your gracious will,
You saved all earthly creatures, long since lost,
Restoring joy to the world.
Redeem our souls and bodies, O Christ,
and so possess us as Your shining dwellings.
By Your first coming, make us righteous;
At your second coming, set us free:
So that, when the world is filled with light
and you judge all things,
We may be clad in spotless robes
and follow in Your steps, O King,
Into the heavenly hall.”
(Unknown Author, 10th century)

What Christmas is Really All About

Yes, Charlie Brown, this is what Christmas is all about.

Just about everybody immediately pictured the scene where Linus asks for the spotlight, then proceeds to recite from memory the birth passage from Luke 2.

Christmas is not all about presents, though they are fun to give and receive.

Christmas is not about decorations, despite what you’ve been seeing in every store since right around Halloween.

Christmas is not about Santa Claus, reindeer, elves, or the North Pole, although they are fun to read about and imagine.

Christmas is about the birth of a baby who changed everything because this particular baby was God incarnate in the flesh, Jesus.

In the midst of the seasonal madness, it’s good to step back periodically and remember what Christmas is really all about.

May you and I never forget.