All Those Personality Types

In my TNT class, we spent the time studying different personality types. We used the Keirsey system, which is apparently similar in some ways to the Meyers-Briggs system.

For the record, I am an Idealist Champion. My letters are ENFP. That means I am an extrovert, intuitive, feeling, perception. I don’t really remember the numbers I got when I took the test earlier in the year, but I’m sure that I probably have both extrovert and introvert scores. I can be either depending on how tired I am.

It’s amazing to me how God made us all so different, not so we could have conflict but so we could complement each other and fill in where the other is lacking. That is why we have the Church. All of us coming together because I am strong where you are weak and visa-versa.

Extroverts are good. So are introverts. Each person brings his or her own strengths and weaknesses and each person is unique and valuable and has something to offer. I really believe that if the Church took more time to emphasize this, we’d be a lot better off.

I think that they should come up with a personality type test that matches you with a character from the TV show Friends. You could be all like, “I’m a Monica-Ross,” which means you are high in qualities that match Monica Gellar and lower in qualities that match Ross. That would be cool.

Don’t be ashamed of who you are just because you’re not like everybody else. Truthfully, no one is like everybody else. Some are better at blending in than others and hiding their own quirks. You being you is the best gift you can give to God and to the world.

On second thought, maybe a personality test based on Happy Days would be cool.

Falling into Grace

I love being a greeter. It does my heart good to see people’s faces light up when they realize that someone sees them and acknowledges them. Especially in a world that ignores and teaches people to ignore anyone who isn’t “pretty” (as they define it).

It was a picturesque fall evening with the temperature just perfect. For me, that means just on the brisk side, cold enough to keep me alert and awake.

It was that magical time between sunset and night when there’s enough daylight to cast a golden glow over everything and give the landscape a dreamish and surreal quality.

I’m reminded how often I feel that I’m entitled to grace. Of course, that’s absurd. Grace by its very nature is undeserved, unmerited, and most certainly unentitled. And most often unexpected.

If I possess true humility, looking truthfully at who I am and who God is, then I must confess that anything good in my life is grace. I don’t deserve any of it.

I hope that I can be a dispenser of grace and give it away just as freely as I’ve received it. Sometimes, I’m better at it than others, but always I’m a little less grace-full and a little more selfish than I’d like to be.

Even the good that I do is grace, because God blesses my self-centered motives and my paltry offerings and multiplies what I do to bless so many more than I know.

The point is not that I’m a bad person. We’re all broken people whom Jesus is making whole again. The point is that God is still good all the time. Always.

FRIENDS

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I feel old. Not because I’m achy or tired or anything like that. I just realized that 20 years ago the pilot episode of that classic sitcom Friends aired on NBC.

20 years. That means that half the students in college weren’t even born when Rachel came running into Central Perk in her wedding gown. I need to sit down.

I still love that show. I think I love it so much because the characters are so real and so many of the moments ring true. It’s not like so many sitcoms where the dialogue is basically endless setups for punch-lines.

Plus, who doesn’t like friends?

I’ve been blessed with some good ones. So many who love me for me, not as I should be but as I am, warts and all. So many who inspire and challenge me and — best of all– help make me more like Jesus.

Not every friend in my life is a forever friend. Some were only in my life for a season and for a specific purpose. Some weren’t good for me. But God used all of them to grow me up a little.

I’ve learned I can’t expect my friends to be something I’m not. I can’t hold them to a standard that I don’t live up to myself.

I love that Jesus is the friend who sticks closer than a brother. He said that He calls us friends because He’s let us in on the great mystery of what God is up to in the world and invited us to be a part of it.

I read something that made me pause: “Love is an act of endless forgiveness.”

I think that applies to friendship as well as romantic love. I forgive because I know I will need to be forgiven at some point. Probably at many points. You and I forgive primarily because God in Jesus has already forgiven us of so much.

I also love the fact that the one time I took a “Which Friends Character Are You Most Like?” Quiz and got Phoebe. They were more right than they knew.

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My Favorite Day

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If you asked me right now what my favorite day was, I’d have today it’s today.

Today is the day I’m alive. Today is the day I’m given– not tomorrow or yesterday, but right now.

I found out today that my cat Lucy is 76 in cat years. She’s no spring chicken. As much as I’d love for her to live forever, I know she won’t. There’ll be a day when I’ll have to say goodbye to my little furry friend.

The point of that isn’t to be excessively morbid, but to remind myself that I have her today. That’s why today is best.

I’ve said it many times before and I don’t claim that it’s my own original thought, but gratitude is what makes me love today. Gratitude makes what you have enough, as one of my favorite writers, Ann Voskamp, put it. Finding joy in each moment comes from giving thanks for the little blessings that I normally take for granted.

I’m not saying today was my best day ever in terms of one of those magical movie days where you get the dream girl and win the lottery.

I ran the media at my church today and managed not to blow anything up. I made less mistakes than the last time and felt more comfortable in what I was doing. Plus, I really felt that God used my small contribution in helping people draw closer to Jesus.

I had a good lunch at Chipotle. I went to Office Depot and found a phone cover for my iPhone 5 for only  . . . wait for it . . . . $5. I call that a win.

I got to see my sister and her family and her lovable dog that I get to take care of from time to time.

That’s the operative word. Like I heard in a sermon, the life of the believer itsn’t a “have-to” but a “get-to.” I get to worship Jesus, not just in that one hour when I’m singing songs or hearing God’s Word read aloud, but hopefully 24/7 in whatever I’m doing to the glory of God. I get to find out about Him through His word and through sharing life together with fellow believers. That’s a good thing.

So I’ll agree with that ol’ bear. Today is my favorite day.

Politics, Schmolitics

“The anything-goes passiveness of the religious and political Left is matched by the preachy moralism of the religious and political Right. The person who uncritically embraces any party line is guilty of an idolatrous surrender of her core identity as Abba’s Child. Neither liberal fairy dust nor conservative hardball addresses our ragged human dignity” (Brennan Manning, Abba’s Child: The Cry of the Heart for Intimate Belonging).

“All religious and political systems, Right and Left alike, are the work of human beings.  Abba’s children will not sell their birthright for any mess of pottage, conservative or liberal.  They hold fast to their freedom in Christ to live the gospel-uncontaminated by cultural junk, political wreckage, and the complex hypocrisies of a bullying religion” (Brennan Manning).

Yep. That sums it up.

I normally don’t post anything political on any of my social media sites because anything that smacks of politics tends to generate reactions rather than well-thought-out responses. These days most people seem to fall into one of two camps– either those who blindly support the current President and think he’s nearly divine or those who hate him and everything he does and have labeled him as the Anti-Christ. At least that’s the way it seems to me.

It was the same 8 years ago with the last President. For some he could do no wrong. For others, he could do nothing write.

I love the song that says that my hope isn’t in a flag or a President or a country, but in a King and a Kingdom. That’s where my ultimate allegiance lies. That’s where my ONLY allegiance lies.

True, the Bible does say to respect, honor, and obey those in power, but that service is done as to God Himself.

So yeah, I take all these comments I see on Facebook and Twitter with a grain of salt. A very, very large grain of salt. Ultimately, my future hope isn’t in this President or the next. It isn’t in a political party. It’s in the Jesus who was Lord before George Washington took office and will be Lord after the last President leaves office.

That’s my soapbox blog for the year, people.

Tired Again?

I’d be okay with mornings if they didn’t come around so often. Or so early.

I actually managed to wake up on my own in time to make it to work, which is a good thing since the volume on my radio alarm clock got mysteriously turned all the way down. Weird.

But I’m glad tomorrow is Friday. Mostly because it’s my half-day at work and because I get to sleep in the next day. Woot!

I know what it’s like to be tired, and I also know what it’s like to be soul-weary, where all the sleep in the world does no good. Soul-weary looks like going through the motions because you’ve lost all hope and can’t see things getting any better.

I love that Jesus offers those people an invitation. Come to me, all you who are soul-weary and overworked, He says, and I will give you rest for your soul. Not just physical rest, but soul-rest.

Oh, and Jesus promises to work everything for our good. That means things will get better, and so will you.

Revisiting That Ol’ Mockingbird

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“I wanted you to see what real courage is, instead of getting the idea that courage is a man with a gun in his hand. It’s when you know you’re licked before you begin, but you begin anyway and see it through no matter what” (Atticus Finch).

Periodically, I get the urge to read a book I’ve read before. This time, it’s To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee.

I can’t remember how many times I’ve read this book, but it’s probably at least twice. I always seem to forget how much of the book got left out of the movie (although that particular movie is still one of my favorites).

Whenever I read dialogue in the book, I hear the people from the movie. Especially when I read Atticus Finch, I hear Gregory Peck. I even hear the two kids from the movie when I read Jem and Scout’s lines.

I’ll probably end up watching the movie again after I’m done with the book. For some reason, I always feel compelled to watch it in the fall.

If you made it all the way through high school without reading this classic, I’d suggest you read it. Pronto. If I could only write one book (as Harper Lee did), I think this would be the one I’d want to write.

Mosaic

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I had an epiphany of sorts today. It started at Kairos when Mike Glenn spoke about how the Church has been at times on the wrong side of race relations and how 11 am on Sunday is still the most segregated hour in this country.

I thought of a mosaic. Or you can substitute a stained glass window if you want.

How boring would it be if every single piece was the same color? The same shape?

What if every single person were exactly like me? Just a lot of carbon copies of Greg running amuck? That’s a scary thought.

Like Mike Glenn said, you’re not wrong, just different. You’re you, unlike anybody else who has ever lived. And that’s a good thing.

I’m personally glad that not everybody looks or talks or thinks like me. Even if some of those people do and say things that I don’t agree with.

I believe it’s wrong to look down on someone because he or she is different. That means different race, different body shape, different upbringing, etc.

It’s easy for me to criticize someone who sins differently than I do. It’s easy for me to crusade against those vices I don’t struggle with.

But God loves all these people. Even the people I have the hardest time loving. Even those who have the hardest time loving me.

I think everybody discriminates against something. It’s the old sin nature in all of us, the part that was broken by the fall. But Jesus’ love is powerful enough to make the brokenness whole again and to make us new creations who can learn to love all those He loves the way He loves.

Mondays Get A Bad Rap

I’m as guilty as anyone of bemoaning Mondays and talking about how glad I am that Mondays only last 24 hours and only take up 1/7 of the week.

But I do think Mondays get a bad rap. And a lot of it is just self-fulfilling prophecy, like where if you think long and hard enough that you’re going to have a bad day, you probably will.

I get that Monday signals the end of the weekend. I also get that Monday means back to work, back to school, back to the humdrum routine.

But Monday also means another chance to draw breath, to open your eyes and see this beautiful creation. Seeing Monday means you’re alive. And to me, that’s a good thing.

Normally, I meet my friend on Monday and we go hiking in Radnor Lake State Park. That’s one part of my Monday I always look forward to. And what if Christmas falls on a Monday? Am I going to have to hate Christmas then?

I think that if you want to change your life, you have to change your mind. Change your way of thinking from focusing on negatives and “can’t”s to positives and “I can”s.

So I like Mondays. I like rainy days. I even like hot humid days (in very small doses). Because that means God woke me up and I was alive to see them.

More Good Stuff from Mr. Lewis

This beautifully expresses the depth of loss and grief that C. S. Lewis felt when his wife died. I love the brutal honesty and transparency here:

“Joy died at 10 o’clock last night in the [hospital]. I was alone with her at the moment, but she was not conscious. I had never seen the moment of natural death before. It was far less dreadful than I had expected—indeed there’s nothing to it. Pray for her soul. I have prayed twice daily of late for us four together—you and Margy and me and Joy. I shall continue for you two.

I can’t understand my loss yet and hardly (except for brief but terrible moments) feel more than a kind of bewilderment, almost a psychological paralysis. A bit like the first moments after being hit by a shell.

I’d like to meet. Perhaps I could come up to town some day when you are in town and take you to lunch at the Athenaeum. For I am—oh God that I were not—very free now. One doesn’t realise in early life that the price of freedom is loneliness. To be happy one must be tied. God bless all three of us.”