Only 11 Days Left Until Christmas

That’s right, people. There are only 11 more days until Christmas Eve. Have you bought all your presents? Have you left anyone off your list? Will those packages from amazom.com get there on time if you order them tomorrow?

There are so many questions. So many reasons to fret and worry and panic. But only one thing truly matters.

In 11 Days, we celebrate the most important arrival in history. Which also happens to be the least conspicuous arrival in history.

Who knew then that a baby born to a peasant couple in backwoods Bethlehem would end up being the Savior of the world? Would anyone have guessed that the baby laying in a feeding trough in the middle of a barn was the Messiah?

That is what Advent and Christmas are all about. Not gifts, not food, not even family. Christmas is about Emmanuel– God with us. God for us. God in us.

I hope that removes the stress of trying to buy the perfect gift or create the perfect Christmas Eve dinner. All that we really need to worry about has been taken care of by this baby in a manger who grew up to be the man on the cross who later became the Man who walked out of the tomb after 3 days.

That is what Christmas is really all about, Charlie Brown.

Great North Star But I’m Tired (Again)

I’m tired. All I want to do (after writing this masterpiece of a blog, of course) is to go to bed. And sleep until Sunday. Or at least past 6 am.

I fantasize about sleeping. Porn for me right now is a picture of a Sealy Serta mattress with flannel sheets and NO alarm clocks in sight. That’s sad.

Sometimes, I’ve been so tired that I literally couldn’t sleep. That seems ridiculous when you’re wide awake, but the more tired you get, the more you realize how true that is.

I love the verse that says how God never slumbers nor sleeps nor tires in watching over His children. When I get too tired to carry on, He carries me. When I shut down for 5-8 hours a night, God never does. There’s never a moment when God isn’t thinking about me and acting on my behalf, doing what’s best for me.

The same goes for you. It still boggles my mind that God can give attention to all His children and treat each one as if he or she were the only created being. He can love all of us and yet still love each of us as if we were the only one to love.

I still wish I could be like my cat sometimes. She never ever has any trouble falling asleep any time in any place at any time, even after having slept through most of the day. Lucky Lucy.

Relationships and Such

I had some random thoughts on relationships based on what I’ve been observing on my social media outlets. I thought I’d share some of them with you. Don’t you feel so very lucky?

1) If you want to date better people, become a better person. You don’t attract what you want, but what you are.

2) In the end, you don’t choose your family, but you do choose to love them because they’re the only family you’ll get and once they’re gone, it’s too late to forgive and reconcile and make things right again. The pain of reconciliation and letting go of your pride is nowhere near the pain of regret and of chances forever lost.

3) The wisest people aren’t the ones who think they know it all, but the ones who know they have a lot to learn.

4) As I’ve said before, the only thing that can truly be your world and fulfill you and make you complete is Jesus. Anything and anyone else– husbands, wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, sons, daughters– can’t. To try to make someone your world is to commit idolatry and to place a burden on them that they were never meant to bear.

5) As underrated a virtue as it is, kindness does matter. Long after the six-pack abs and GQ looks have faded, kindness is what will get you through the storms and dark passages of life. Choose a mate who is attractive but more than that who is kind and generous.

6) Now you have that Natalie Merchant song stuck in your head. My work here is done.

7) The old saying is true. You really never understand other people until you’ve climbed in their shoes and walked around for a bit. Until you’ve seen life from their perspective.

8) In the end, it really won’t matter that you worked 60-hour weeks or accumulated trophies and awards and accolades or made lots of money. What will matter are the people whose lives you’ve touched. All that you can take with you is what you’ve given away.

Tacky Christmas Sweater Update for 2014

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This just in. I have a somewhat tacky Christmas sweater for any and all upcoming ugly Christmas sweater contests.

As I am a bit of a perfectionist when it comes to these things, I’m not completely satisfied. The aforementioned sweater does not light up or make annoyingly festive sounds of any kind. It is however, loud and obnoxious. Plus, I think the row of creepy Santa faces takes this sweater up a notch. In my opinion.

So the quest will continue. My size is still Large. If you see any extremely tacky and obnoxious Christmas sweaters, let me know. I will continue to keep at least one eye open whenever I am frequenting the local Goodwill or any of the other fine thrift stores in the general Nashville area.

That said, I at least have something to wear that has a slim to moderate chance of earning me a 3rd or 4th place award. It’s also sufficiently Christmas-y and is both joyful and triumphant.

The whole point isn’t really to win. The point is to be as obnoxiously and annoyingly festive as possible.

Why I Love Jesus’ Style

Jesus didn’t announce His coming the way I would have. Definitely not the way most mega-churches would have. They’d have had a multimedia blitz of advertisements months in advance. They would have launched Jesus as the next Christian superstar.

Instead, Jesus chose to arrive via an unwed teenage mother in a barn, announced by lowly shepherds. While it is true that Mary conceived Jesus by the Holy Spirit, she wasn’t married to Joseph yet.

I love how a pastor put it: Jesus didn’t come as a Mighty Warrior so we’d step back in awe or as a King that we’d bow down in fear but as a Baby so that we might draw near.

But those shepherds? Who were they? Probably not the romanticized idea we have of them today. They were among the lowest of the low. They probably smelled like sheep, which isn’t a pleasant odor. They weren’t allowed in the temple despite the fact that they raised the sheep used in temple sacrifices. They were nobodies.

I love how the angels announced the good news to them first, of how this Jesus would be FOR all the people. For you. For me.

For all those who’ve ever felt unwanted and ignored in a crowd.

For all those who feel forgotten by friends and family and feel more alone than ever.
For those who can’t ever seem to get their act together or figure out their future.

For those who live daily with the shameful reminders of past failures and consequences of poor decisions.

For those who will never be popular or successful by the standards we normally define popularity and success.

For those who take care of smelly dumb sheep for a living.

For those whose good intentions and promises always end up as broken as they are.

For us. For all of us.

Karma vs. Grace at Christmas

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I hear a lot of people who profess Christianity talking about karma. Well, more specifically, I see many of my facebook friends who post how people who mess them over are gonna get what karma’s dishing out.

It’s funny how people always want karma for others but never for themselves. Just my opinion.

I prefer grace. Period.

I know where I’d be if I got karma. Majorly screwed.

Besides, Jesus didn’t come to give karma. Jesus came to give grace, which in my mind is infinitely better.

Karma says you get what you deserve. Grace says Jesus got and paid for what you deserve. That’s the difference.

Karma is all about what you deserve. Grace is what you don’t deserve but get anyway. Karma may be getting your just desserts, but grace is more like a feast– much more satisfying and filling.

Karma says that it’s up to you. Grace says that God is up to it.

Karma says that if you try really hard and be nice to people then maybe, just maybe, on the next go-round, you won’t be a bug. Eventually, if you’re really lucky and eat all your vegetables, you may wind up in a good place. And I admit that I’m exaggerating a bit.

Grace says that no matter how badly you’ve messed up and how even if you’ve made enough mistakes for several lifetimes, Jesus offers forgiveness and a do-over. Jesus offers a new life, not just in the eternal by-and-by, but here and now. Life to the fullest.

I choose grace.

If you want karma, that’s fine. I don’t want to wish for someone what I wouldn’t want to receive myself. I know that it’s not right to want karma for others and grace for myself. It just doesn’t work that way.

So grace wins in my book, hands down. The end.

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Lessons from The Bishop’s Wife

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I wonder how many of us are already overwhelmed by the prospect of buying all those Christmas gifts. Maybe you’re stressing about what to give that certain person who is so hard to buy for. Or maybe you don’t know how you’ll manage to find the time to buy and wrap all those presents and still manage to get everything else done.

I think I have an idea.

Maybe the gift you really need to be concerned about is the main gift you’ll ever give. As the main character in the movie The Bishop’s Wife says, “We’ve remembered everybody except one — that child born in a manger so long ago.” What will we give Him?

Talk about hard to buy for! This child, Jesus, already owns it all. The cattle on a thousand hills? Already got it. All the gold in Fort Knox? Already His.

So what can you give Jesus this year?

Maybe the best present you can give is to be present to Jesus. Maybe the best gift you can give is you. Not your time or your money or your best intentions, but you.

In other words, what Jesus wants more than anything from you this Christmas is your surrendered heart. What He desires is every part of you– the good, the bad, the ugly, all of it.

The good news is that no matter how badly you’ve screwed your life up, Jesus still wants it. No matter how much of a mess you’ve made of you, Jesus still wants you, just as you are right now. Not as you could be, but as you are in this very moment.

The better news (or maybe even the best news of all) is that Jesus takes you as you are but refuses to leave you that way. He promised to help you become every bit of who He made you to be. And it’s never too late in this lifetime to be all that God made you to be.

So that’s one less present you have to worry about, right?

45,000 Views (and Counting) Can’t Be Wrong

You like me. You really like me. Even as I type that, I can’t help hearing Jim Carrey’s voice a la Stanley Ipkis a la The Mask. That’s a great movie, but I seriously digress.

I was taught to say thank you and to always write thank you notes whenever someone gave me a gift. So here goes:

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

You read my little blogs from the very beginning, even the ones I wrote at 2 a.m. and the ones where I indulged in a little TMI and the ones I evidently forgot to spell-check.

You told me how much you enjoyed my posts and I was invariably surprised to find out it was you that was reading them. It meant a lot (and still does).

It’s been 4 1/2 years and almost 1,600 posts and it has never not been worth it. I would have written all these even if they only had one person reading them (me). It still would have been so worth it, if only for the catharsis and the practice of writing and learning how to continue to improve how I express my thoughts. And I am still learning.

So thank you yet again. Maybe what I write won’t help every single person out there, but will speak to one person and inspire that person not to give up. Or maybe even they will be inspired to write their own blog. Who knows?

I know that Jon Acuff probably gets 45,000 views on one of his blogs. Probably before lunch. But to me that means that a LOT of you took time that could have been spent elsewhere reading my words that came from my heart. I will always be thankful for that and for you. You rock!

The Last Christmas

I had an unusual question pop into my head today. It’s not something I think about too much and I tend not to be morbid, but I thought I’d pose this question anyway: if you knew this was the last Christmas you’d spend with someone, what gift would you buy him or her?

Again, I don’t mean to be morbid, but I’ve thought about this a bit.

Maybe the best last gift you’d ever buy someone is the gift of you. More specifically, I mean you taking your time and spending it with that person. Taking about what they want to talk about. Going through old photo albums.

It doesn’t have to be your 88-year old grandmother. It could be anyone. After all, no one is guaranteed a tomorrow, much less a next Christmas.

So who would it be? And what would it be?

Maybe that’s what you should get that person for Christmas. In case you’re stuck for what to buy him or her.

 

Back to that Nativity Scene

Around this time last year (or possibly the year before), I wrote about how your nativity set is wrong if it has wise men in it because they most likely didn’t show up to see Jesus until He was 1 or 2 years old and Joseph and Mary were living in a house.

I still hold to that. I’m not telling you to throw your wise men in the trash. What I am saying is to check what you’ve been told about the Christmas story against what the Bible actually says. That goes for anything, not just the Christmas story. FYI.

I read about a family who sets up their nativity scene with all the pieces except one. They leave out Jesus until Christmas night. That way there’s an anticipation, much like there was that first Christmas night.

I like that idea. As long as you don’t lose the baby Jesus or the dog doesn’t eat him. But there’s something to be said for making your own family traditions, especially ones that center around the Christ of Christmas.

I saw a nativity scene today that I loved. I don’t think it’s too sacrilegious (or at least I hope not). Besides, we don’t still worship an infant Jesus. We pray to and sing to and love and serve a Jesus who grew up and lived a perfect life and died a criminal’s death on a cross and rose again. All for you and me.

So here’s that nativity scene.

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Pretty awesome, ain’t it?