A Road Trip Down Memory Lane

I used to get so annoyed when anyone older would talk about how things were better in the olden days. I guess I’m older because I realize they were right. Things were better back in yonder days of yore, pre social media and way back in the late 1900s.

This picture makes me hungry. Back in the day, if you saw a personal pan pizza delivered to your table piping hot in a cast iron skillet, you knew that pizza was going to be fire. I mean literally because you’d inevitably burn the roof of your mouth with that first bite, but also in the sense that your taste buds were about to get born again.

Also, those red plastic cups? Those were the best. Cokes tasted way better in those, especially if you were surrounded by good friends or family. Don’t even get me started on those stained glass lamps.

Pizza Hut was the hang out spot after a Friday night football game (or should I say Friday night marching band performance bookended by some football). The team rarely won, but that didn’t matter. It was the memories that mattered more than the stats or the win-loss column. Plus, they had a jukebox with all the classic songs from the 80s to liven up the mood.

Restaurants had more personality back in the day. Places like McDonald’s were a child’s fantasy world instead of a sad washed-up middle aged man hang out. Everything tasted better. And yes, get off my lawn, you meddling kids.

Is Winter Over Yet?

Some of you know that I am not a fan of winter. I like the part in December where we get Christmas and New Year’s Eve. I even like the first few weeks into January and February, but after that I’m over being cold and having to scrape my car’s windshield in the morning.

I’m the same way with summer. I like summer through the 4th of July and a few weeks past that, but at a point I start longing for fall. Fall is still my absolute favorite, with spring falling behind into second place.

One annoying aspect of Winter is how it pretends to go away, but doesn’t really. Already, there have been a couple of sneak previews of spring, but then in a day or two it gets rainy and cold again. Typically when I take the lining out of my rain jacket, I can predict that the temperatures will plummet again.

I know the groundhog didn’t see his shadow, so theoretically that means spring comes early. But winter isn’t ready to let go. Winter really wants to have the last word. But I think we’d all agree at this point that the song from Frozen applies — winter just needs to “let it go.”

The reason spring isn’t my favorite season is that along with warmer weather come all forms of pollen, mold, and dust that don’t like my sinuses. Or my sinuses don’t like them. I think the feeling is mutual.

Also, all those bugs that have been napping all winter wake up and want to get all up in your business right away. Plus, this year two different kinds of cicadas will be invading the land. I get that insects are an important part of the circle of life, but I wish they could be important somewhere away from me rather than constantly flying in my face all the time.

But every season serves a purpose, as it says in Ecclesiastes. Winter, spring, summer, and fall all have a part in God’s creation. I may not like them all equally, but I can appreciate each one and find the good in each season. Then I can really celebrate fall and bust out all my flannel all over again . . . in about seven months or so.

Countdown to 5,000

I’m not the best at math, so I may be a little off but I think after this little post I will be 34 away from hitting 5,000 blog posts in my career.

I never thought I’d ever get to this point. In fact, when I started I didn’t really have a goal in mind. I started with the first one and went from there. I was going to keep writing and writing for as long as I could, regardless of who else read it besides me (and my Mom).

I’ve made it a goal to write something every day. That’s the only way to get better at writing — to write and write and write. Also, reading good books helps, but mostly it’s writing every day, even when you don’t feel like it or don’t think you have anything worth saying.

Sometimes, I cheat a little by quoting someone else’s words. Sometimes, I will use other people’s writing because they’ve said it better than I ever could. But I’m learning how to improve my own voice so I can speak my own thoughts with my own words.

As always, I’m thankful for every reader and for every view. I’m grateful that people from all over the world want to read what I write. I’m humbled and honored by every single person who follows me regularly and encourages me to keep going.

So here’s to 5,000 (in a little over a month) and beyond!

A Lenten Prayer

“O Lord, this holy season of Lent is passing quickly,
I entered into it with fear, but also with great expectations.
I hoped for a great breakthrough, a powerful conversion, a real change of heart;
I wanted Easter to be a day so full of light that not even a trace 
of darkness would be left in my soul.
But I know that you do not come to your people with thunder and lightning.
Even St. Paul and St. Francis journeyed through much darkness
before they could see your light.
Let me be thankful for your gentle way.
I know you are at work.
I know you will not leave me alone, 
I know you are quickening me for Easter – 
but in a way fitting to my own history and my own temperament.
I pray that these last three weeks, in which you invite me to enter 
more fully into the mystery of your passion,
will bring me a greater desire to follow you on the way you create for me
and to accept the cross that you give to me.
Let me die to the desire to choose my own way and select my own cross.
You do not want to make me a hero but a servant who loves you.
Be with me tomorrow and in the days to come,
and let me experience your gentle presence.
Amen” (Henri Nouwen).

Lord, may the last three weeks of Lent not be wasted. Help me to use my time away from social media to create margins of unhurried space within my day for me to hear Your voice speaking to me. Give me a quiet heart and a calm mind to receive Your words. Above all, grant me the ability and willingness to obey what I hear. Amen.

Funny Socks

It’s good to have hobbies. Especially these days. You need something to take your mind off of everything that’s going on around the world. Something to occupy your mind beside death and taxes.

My hobby of late is collecting funny socks. I inherited this from my father, who has an impressive array of funny, odd, and just plain different pairs of socks. I only started a few years ago, but I feel like I’m catching up.

I have all kinds of socks, from Bob Ross to bacon to cats (which suits me as a cat person). Whenever I head up to the Gatlinburg area, I pick up a pair that give off a kind of Smokey Mountains vibe. I got several pairs for Christmas one year that were Friends-themed.

I’m always on the hunt for unique and quirky socks that match my personality. I always throw them on my birthday or Christmas wish lists. I also accept all forms of funny socks in lieu of payment. Imagine using funny socks as currency instead of cash.

I’m currently wearing an old pair of Mickey Mouse socks that have Season’s Greetings on them. I am aware that we are past the Christmas season, but they are comfy and no one else sees them but me. I feel like I’m allowed.

This Is Your Life

The last six weeks have been surreal. Not having a job certainly has altered my routine a bit, not to mention messing with my normal sleep patterns. Lately, I’m uncertain as to what day of the week it is, although I’m 75% certain of what year it is.

Lately, I’ve run into some familiar faces. Or more accurately, they’ve approached me because they recognize me. One was from my high school graduating class (Briarcrest class of ’91) who I ran into at the Rabbit Room a week ago Wednesday. The next was a girl from my college (Union class of ’95) who came over to my table at a restaurant.

Last was a guy I knew from Fellowship Bible Church back in the day. It took me a minute, because my reaction time has been a little off lately from not working, but I got there eventually.

All three of these happened in the span of about 10 days. All three were initiated by the other party. Each time was a complete and total surprise. I felt like a contestant on the old TV show, This Is Your Life, where they bring in random people from the past and you have to guess who it is.

This is normally where I make some super-spiritual analogy or make a relevant point about faith. But I’m still trying to figure out what it means. I know enough about faith and God to know that there are no coincidences in this life. Nothing happens by accident or happenstance. At the very least, these are all God-winks, those seemingly small moments of God breaking in to your normal.

Each time, I got a little tongue-tied because I was so taken aback and surprised, but each time I walked away encouraged and more hopeful. Maybe that was the point after all.

Growing Through Obedience

“‘Aslan” said Lucy “you’re bigger’.
‘That is because you are older, little one’ answered he.
‘Not because you are?’
‘I am not. But every year you grow, you will find me bigger.’ (C.S. Lewis, Prince Caspian).”

There’s one part in Prince Caspian where Aslan calls out to Lucy to follow him, and to get the others to do the same. The catch is that Lucy is the only one who can see or hear him. The others will have to take her word for it.

That’s the moment where Lucy chooses to trust in Aslan and obey him, even though it might feel like she’s the only one. She has to go even if she goes alone.

That’s what genuine faith looks like. Faithfulness and obedience can be lonely sometimes, especially when so many others are too busy trying to blend in and not make waves to truly follow Jesus. When you are obedient, sometimes your biggest critics will come from inside the Church, not outside.

William Carey, the father of modern missions, faced opposition from other clergymen for wanting to take the gospel to India. Imagine that. Pastors and church leaders not wanting to take the gospel to unreached people. But it happened.

William Carey’s faithfulness made it possible for others to take the gospel around the world, so that heaven could be filled with voices from every tribe and tongue, every skin color and hair color, gathered around the throne as depicted in the book of Revelation.

Obedience might mean standing in the minority for what’s right versus what’s popular. William Penn once said, “Right is right, even if everyone is against it, and wrong is wrong, even if everyone is for it.”

In Prince Caspian, Lucy gets the rest to follow her. Some were more willing than others to go, but they all went. None of them could see Aslan until after they had stepped out in faith, but once they were committed to following, they could see him leading the way.

That’s the way faith is sometimes. You can’t see God until you obey what He’s told you to do. Obedience leads to faith being made sight.

God’s Loyal Love

“But there’s one other thing I remember, and remembering, I keep a grip on hope: God’s loyal love couldn’t have run out, his merciful love couldn’t have dried up. They’re created new every morning. How great your faithfulness!” (Lamentations 3:21-23, The Message).

My favorite Hebrew word is in this passage. It’s hesed, commonly translated as lovingkindness or stedfast love. I heard from a great teacher that basically it’s when someone from whom you have the right to expect nothing instead gives you everything.

That’s my hope these days. I’m counting on the fact that God’s hesed hasn’t run out. Even though I have no right to expect that kind of faithful love, still I ask for it. I crave it like a fish craves water or birds crave the sky.

In this season of transition where I feel set adrift, I know that hesed means that I have a firm foundation, a strong anchor amidst the waves, a welcome audience to the heavenly throne room in my time of need. I know that despite my fear, I won’t be forgotten. God will remember, even if I forget.

Every morning is a reminder of God’s promises, especially that His mercies are daily renewed to me and will never come to an end. So I hold on to hope as Hope holds on to me.

A Symphony of Prayers

“We are not alone. My prayers are perhaps a single note in a symphony, but a necessary note, for I believe in the communion of saints. We need each other. The prayers of one affect all. The obedience of one matters infinitely and forever” (Elisabeth Elliot, Keep a Quiet Heart, See I Corinthians 12:12).

I love that image. All the prayers of all the saints make a kind of symphony that is pleasing to God. I do think that God hears and answers each individual prayer, but I also believe that collectively they rise to the Lord as an incense and aroma like the animal sacrifices of old.

There is something powerful that happens when two or more are gathered in Jesus’ name. The Church can have a greater Kingdom act when gathered together than all the people working and praying separately. That’s why it’s vital to gather and not neglect the meeting together of the people of God.

Each prayer matters. Each act of obedience matters. Together they make up a symphony and show the hands and feet of Jesus to a world that has a need that it cannot name but will recognize Jesus in us as we preach both in our actions and our words.

Unselfishness Vs. Love

“If you asked twenty good men today what they thought the highest of the virtues, nineteen of them would reply, Unselfishness. But if you had asked almost any of the great Christians of old, he would have replied, Love. You see what has happened? A negative term has been substituted for a positive, and this is of more than philological importance. The negative idea of Unselfishness carries with it the suggestion not primarily of securing good things for others, but of going without them ourselves, as if our abstinence and not their happiness was the important point. I do not think this is the Christian virtue of Love. The New Testament has lots to say about self-denial, but not about self- denial as an end in itself. We are told to deny ourselves and to take up our crosses in order that we may follow Christ; and nearly every description of what we shall ultimately find if we do so contains an appeal to desire. If there lurks in most modern minds the notion that to desire our own good and earnestly to hope for the enjoyment of it is a bad thing, I submit that this notion has crept in from Kant and the Stoics and is no part of the Christian faith. Indeed, if we consider the unblushing promises of reward and the staggering nature of the rewards promised in the Gospels, it would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased” (C. S. Lewis, The Weight of Glory).

I heard someone wise once say that it’s not enough to resist temptation, unlearn bad habits, and give up unhealthy thoughts and actions. You need to replace all these with good habits, healthy choices, and obedience. Otherwise, you end up with a different set of bad habits and vices.

I remember my pastor commented on how old-school Baptists were known more for what they were against than what they were for. He said they used to show up in church and brag about not having done anything bad — or actually anything at all.

To be unselfish just to be unselfish is missing the mark. You’re likely to pick up bitterness (from all that you gave up) or self-righteousness (at how much better you are than those who still indulge in what you gave up).

Love is the opposite of selfishness, not unselfishness, because it is self-less. We don’t need to think less of ourselves as the antidote to thinking too much of ourselves. We just need to think about ourselves less and more about others and God.

We miss the mark when we make it about modifying our behavior and being more moral when it’s about emptying of self so there’s more room for God and His ways. It’s not about becoming a slightly better version of me but about becoming a brand new me, one that looks and acts like Jesus.