As I am writing this, I am well aware of my lack of expertise in this area. For me as a single, never-married person to blog about divorce is like a vegan telling someone the best way to baste a rack of ribs.

I do know this. God hates divorce. Not in the way so many fundamentalist Bible-bashing believers have led you to believe. God hates what it does to you and to your children. No one comes out scot-free. Everyone leaves wounded and scarred.

I’m not going to say that the Bible ever condones divorce. I will say that it is not the unpardonable sin. Not even close.

I think that if you’ve been down this road, you shouldn’t be punished forever for a mistake you made once (or that someone else made that hurt you).

I know that for a marriage to work, there have to be both spouses willing to work for it. You can’t make the other care if he or she doesn’t want to. One person alone can’t save a marriage. But God can. It’s never too late for Him to change or save or redeem anything. Period.

I do think that no one should stay in a marriage where they or their children are in physical or emotional danger. Staying in that case does no one any good. Get out.

I know that God is a God of second, third, and fourth chances. He’s a God of 1,000,000th chances. You never run out when you come to Him seeking Him.

I know I have done and said and thought things that should have gotten me booted for good from God’s good graces. I should be in hell for all my sinfulness. The same goes for anyone who ever lived, if they are honest.

That’s why I am one of the biggest fans you will ever find of grace and forgiveness. No one is ever beyond the reach of God extending either of these to them. Never. At any time.

I know that God is for you, no matter what you’ve done or what’s been done for you. He won’t ever stop rooting for you, cheering for you, singing over you, and loving you wildly. That’s who He is.

I know that when I get married, it won’t be something I enter into lightly. It will be “all in”. and if I can’t be “all in”, then I probably need to stick with my cat. Marriage is a beautiful picture of God’s love for His people and it takes a buttload of work.

I pray you will read these words as one finite fallen man’s thoughts on the subject. I know I still have a lot to learn, but I am more and more convinced that my God is worth everything, every cost and every sacrifice, to know and make known. He’s just that good.