I am no expert by any means. But I have lived enough and seen enough to know a few things. One of these is that you can’t expect to attract a certain kind of person unless you are striving yourself to be that kind of person. For instance, if you are always flirty and shallow, you can’t expect to find a deep and lasting relationship from that.

I can’t expect someone else to be something I’m not. Or at least I can’t expect them to be what I’m not willing to strive toward. If I want a godly woman for a wife, I have to be in pursuit of godliness myself. If I want her to be kind and compassionate, I have to be kind and compassionate myself.

A hard question to ask: If you are not liking the kind of people you are attracting, maybe you need to be the first one to change. I am not trying to be judgmental or slam anybody. I hope this will encourage you toward seeking Christ not just to be a better potential husband or wife, but because Jesus is worth it.

A friend of mine today told me that if you have a standard for dating and relationships, you have to be that standard. You will attract people who love Christ by the way you demonstrate your own love for Christ. You will attract people who are loving and caring and kind by showing love and care and kindness, regardless of who it is you’re serving.

I am so far from having it all figured out. I am probably the world’s worst when it comes to dating and relationships. These are some things I need to work on myself.

Thank you, Jesus, that you can take just the tiniest beginnings of a Yes to you, and turn it into a transformation that will bring utmost glory to Your name!